"The choices we make change
the story of our life." ©
Saturday, November 11, 2006
AFFAIR REPAIR
Guest Blogger: Nancy C Anderson
My husband, Ron, and I have been married for 28 years and we have a healthy, strong marriage now, but it has risen out of the ashes of my infidelity.
The most dramatic U-Turn in my life (other than my becoming a Christian at age 16) was
my decision to stay married to Ron, despite my “love” for my coworker Jake. My book, Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome: How to Grow Affair Proof Hedges Around Your Marriage tells the whole story, but here’s a snippet about my defining moment of change.
I wondered if there was any way out of the chaos I had created. I went into the living room, sank into the sofa, held a pillow to my chest, and called out —to God. I had been avoiding Him for months. My guilt and shame had built a wall between us. But, brick-by-brick—as I confessed each sin—I tore down the wall—and let the Light in.
I prayed, “Lord, please show me your will for my life.” Then, I remembered the simple words that Jesus said to the adulteress woman. “Go and sin no more.” I knew exactly what I had to do. I surrendered my will and my heart to the Lord and asked for the strength to walk away from Jake and make a full confession to Ron.
Ron forgave me and we started over. That was 26 years ago, and now we have a ministry helping other couples who think marriage problems are fixed by divorce. We know that repentance, love and forgiveness fix marriages—heal people.
We have had the privilege of telling our story on many national shows including Montel Williams, The 700 Club, FamilyLife with Dennis Rainey and Revive our Hearts with Nancy Leigh DeMoss. You can read more at JoyfulMarriage.blogspot.com
It’s been great being with you this week! Blessings, Nancy C Anderson
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- PS: ATTENTION BABY BOOMER WOMEN! Allison Bottke will be the Featured Author of the Month for November at America's #1 web site for baby boomer women.
Visit Allison's main web site at http://www.godallowsuturns.com/ and click on the National Association of Baby Boomer Women logo to join the NABBW or to visit the free forums at Boomer Women Speak. Join Allison in the Featured Author Forum in November and learn how wise, warm and witty baby boomer women are connecting, encouraging and supporting one another every day.
My husband, Ron, and I have been married for 28 years and we have a healthy, strong marriage now, but it has risen out of the ashes of my infidelity.
The most dramatic U-Turn in my life (other than my becoming a Christian at age 16) was
my decision to stay married to Ron, despite my “love” for my coworker Jake. My book, Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome: How to Grow Affair Proof Hedges Around Your Marriage tells the whole story, but here’s a snippet about my defining moment of change.
I wondered if there was any way out of the chaos I had created. I went into the living room, sank into the sofa, held a pillow to my chest, and called out —to God. I had been avoiding Him for months. My guilt and shame had built a wall between us. But, brick-by-brick—as I confessed each sin—I tore down the wall—and let the Light in.
I prayed, “Lord, please show me your will for my life.” Then, I remembered the simple words that Jesus said to the adulteress woman. “Go and sin no more.” I knew exactly what I had to do. I surrendered my will and my heart to the Lord and asked for the strength to walk away from Jake and make a full confession to Ron.
Ron forgave me and we started over. That was 26 years ago, and now we have a ministry helping other couples who think marriage problems are fixed by divorce. We know that repentance, love and forgiveness fix marriages—heal people.
We have had the privilege of telling our story on many national shows including Montel Williams, The 700 Club, FamilyLife with Dennis Rainey and Revive our Hearts with Nancy Leigh DeMoss. You can read more at JoyfulMarriage.blogspot.com
It’s been great being with you this week! Blessings, Nancy C Anderson
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- PS: ATTENTION BABY BOOMER WOMEN! Allison Bottke will be the Featured Author of the Month for November at America's #1 web site for baby boomer women.
Visit Allison's main web site at http://www.godallowsuturns.com/ and click on the National Association of Baby Boomer Women logo to join the NABBW or to visit the free forums at Boomer Women Speak. Join Allison in the Featured Author Forum in November and learn how wise, warm and witty baby boomer women are connecting, encouraging and supporting one another every day.
